When I was very young, hearing a young kid crying because of tantrums irritate the heck out of me. I did not understand why kids have to throw really bad fits. My niece and nephews were the same way when they were toddlers. Same as me and my siblings when we were little. That is why we got spanking or pinching when we do that and when we won’t listen to their parents’ comforting us. Thoughts came running around inside my mind. Are they spoiled? Or just getting a lot of attention?
I am a parent now and things like these still get into my nerves. I totally become a freak like I want to throw something to break. My daughter just turned 2. They say that a kids get more and more sensitive to frustration at this age. That is why terrible two’s comes in the scene. Well, I guess they are right. My toddler throws a wild fit. It frustrates me too because I lose my patience sometimes. I try to stay cool and calm as long as possible. What’s difficult is when she does that in public. When I try to talk to her even in a soft voice, she screams and cry the loudest. As a first time mom, I don’t know what to do to calm her down. So I just let her cry and cry. It makes me feel unhappy.
But why do toddlers throw a fit?
Mainly because their wants are unattended. Young children are persistent. They try to be manipulative to get what they want even though they have lots at home. Example: toys.
So, what to do?
Well, it’s really complicated because if you got caught in the middle of something in public, you will feel irritable too. But listening to your toddler is the key to lessen the tension. Playing deaf won’t help because the situation will just get worse. Listen, talk, and explain why and why not. They have to learn that they don’t get everything they want. Don’t forget to give your child a sweet hug.