Implementing Discipline Measures To Your Kids Doesn’t Have To Be Violent ( Momimhar posted on October 26th, 2015 )

A week ago or so, a big chaos arose one evening at my younger sister’s household.  My sister was very furious when she learned that her daughter lost another cellphone – the second cellphone bought for her, to be specific.  That was the second incident my niece lost her cellphone and she said someone must-have stole it in school.  My niece is a freshman college student.  Anyway, so my sister got very angry.  When her daughter got home that evening from school and told her about the lost cellphone, well, my sister has gone violent.  In short, she hit her daughter.  She was unreasonably mad about the cellphones got stolen.  She was more concerned about the amount she spent on those s****d cellphones.  She was mad that her daughter’s not valuing the importance of everything given to her, that she is not seeing her studying her lessons and not updating her about what’s going on in school, that she’s trying to do her best to give everything to her kids even though their budget is very tight.  These were my sister’s sentiments towards her daughter that lead to hitting.

As usual, the ‘curious’ neighbors went outside their homes to see what was happening. According to my cousin’s wife, my sister was throwing things at her daughter including glasses.  My parents didn’t know about it until my cousin’s wife sent a text message to my mother telling them what’s going on.  They lived about three miles away from my sister’s house.  My cousin’s wife tried to get my niece out of the house and immediately took her to my parents’.

I was very upset when I learned about what happened.  My sister told me first and she said she have decided not to enroll my niece in the next semester to teach her a lesson.  I know they have a financial crisis but is that reasonable or not?  Then I called our mom last weekend and she told me that my niece has a few bruises.  You know, I felt sorry for my niece.  I am sure she didn’t mean to lose the cellphones.  If my niece was like other teens, she could have run away and not come home.  That could be a bigger problem.  I talked to her and she said she still wants to go to school next semester.  My niece was embarrassed and humiliated.  She trusted her classmates so much yet one of them betrayed her.  We are pretty sure whoever stole her first cellphone is the same person took the second one.

My sister is a good person but sometimes she becomes unreasonable when things get complicated and out of hand.  Her husband is currently working abroad yet they don’t receive enough budget for the household and for the kids’ school needs.  She is doing the parenting responsibility all by herself for the last four years.

As of the moment, my niece is at my parents’.  I told my sister she’ll stay there for a while because things are still in heat.  Plus, if I was in my niece’s situation, it will take time for me to go back to my neighborhood after what happened that evening.  They have to realize things. But even if they realized their mistakes, what now?  Feelings were hurt.  Trust was broken.

Then I read my mom’s message this morning that my niece’s classmate will meet up in school to return the cellphone.  That b***h! ‘Didn’t think about the result of her evil doing to my niece.  My youngest sister accompanied my niece to her school.  I know my niece.  She doesn’t say anything.  She doesn’t fight back.  She is still young to be dealing with type of conflicts.

If you were in this situation, would you take the cellphone back?  Why and why not?

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